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Episode III: Return of the Mid
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I have a friend...
She's not feeling too great at the moment. She split up with her boyfriend on Wednesday night. He wasn't really sure what he wanted. Didn't know whether he wanted to get back with his wife or not. He really liked her, he liked her a lot, but he couldn't give her any promises. It was left unsaid that he also couldn't give her any honesty. She decided she didn't need that and walked out of his flat at 1.30am.
Normally I think she'd be ok. She knows how to pick up the pieces and carry on. Just this time, she seems to have forgotton where to start. She feels like crying all the time, any time she is not in front of people, she pretty much is crying. She doesn't know how to stop. I don't think she has lost the instruction book on how to cope, she has just lost the ability to open it.
I think she knows that it's not even all about him. Its about everything she never cried about before. She never cried about being pregnant, she never cried about having the abortion, she never cried when she sold her horse, she never cried when she failed her qualification. She could cope with all that because there were always things left. now she feels like there is literally nothing. She knows deep down that there are things really, but then in a way those are the things she willingly left behind when she moved to a new city, so it is hard for her to see those things beyond the void.
What can I do to help her?
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(2.12.05 13:39)
She needs to take time out - take a holiday (she must be able to get one), if necessary swallow any pride and go back to stay with her parents for a few days to sort herself out. To think about what she wants, what she needs, and how to get it - to focus on what's important, while she's somewhere she can feel safe and under no pressure.
Good luck. xx.
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(2.12.05 13:40)
I would say that she needs to re evaluate what she wants/needs/can do in relation to making her life better. Then she should do it. She should also remember that if she wants her friends, they are sure to be around if she asks. Thats what I'd do.
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(2.12.05 13:44)
i think she needs a break, i think she needs to lean on people where maybe she hasn't before. i think she might need to go home for a bit and let some other people look after her for a while until she is strong enough to look after herself. i think she needs a lot of hugs xxxxxxxxxxx
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(2.12.05 13:46)
She needs to know it's okay to be sad sometimes and she doesn't have to try and be happy and hold it all together. New good things will happen in a little while, when she's ready for them. Q's right, a holiday, even if it's a holiday on the sofa in front of the tv.
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(2.12.05 13:58)
She needs to put herself first for a while I think. As Q and Em have said, perhaps she needs to get away for a while and enjoy being herself.
She also needs to know that her friends think a lot of her, and needs to take heart in that.
She needs to remember that despite how shitty she feels, a lot of people love her.
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(2.12.05 14:20)
Time is the only thing that will eventually make her feel better. It's hard to see light at the end of the tunnel when everything feels so gloomy. Best thing I've found when I've been miserable is not to be left on my own to wallow, so just do stuff with her
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(2.12.05 14:29)
I think you should be there for her as much as possible. Sometimes it means the world just to know someone is there.
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(2.12.05 23:09)
There is absolutely nothing she can do! She's in love with the guy. Not something she'll ever get over but, depending on the support her friends give, she'll learn to cope.......ella
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(3.12.05 06:30)
she needs to gain some perspective - there are lawys things to be happy about however small - like ' i have some caring chums and a job and somewhere nice to live and a family etc'
in the mean time she needs to find something to do - take up something new that she likes - meet ppl/be generaqlly distracted - theres always more out there xxx
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(5.12.05 21:54)
She needs hugs and time and gin. And I'm 100% sure there are people around to help provide them for her x
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Episode III: Return of the Mid
